milspouse, PCS

When You Finally Get Answers

Holy Cow!!

Our no later than date came and went…. No real surprise there.  I almost expect it at this point.  You know who doesn’t expect it?  My mother-in-law.  Had to field constant questions from her… but whatever.  I’m used to that by now…

Two weeks after we were supposed to find out what our plans were, we finally found out.  My husband is going to graduate school in Dallas with a two-year follow on assignment at United States Military Academy.  Thank goodness we found out when we did because at that point the move was only 6 weeks away and we had to go out to Texas that weekend so that we could buy a house and close in time for moving day.  Nothing like crunch time to add a layer of stress to an already stressful lifestyle!!

We packed up the mighty SwaggerWagon (aka family minivan) and drove out to Dallas to house search.  I had found a real estate agent, gave her our parameters, sent a bunch of MLS listings that I was interested in and in 1 day we saw 27 house.  Phew!! Thank goodness my in-laws met us and took our kids off our hands so that we could get it done.  I seriously have no idea how we would have done it if we had to drag the boys with us.

We found an amazing house that not only fits our needs but should rent well once we are ready to move to New York.  This is the third home my husband and I have purchased since he joined the military and we still own the others, with renters currently living in them.  Now we are firmly in the mortgage process, which is such a pain in the butt.  Not difficult, just tedious and time-consuming.

Now that we have answered the question of where we are going to live, I’m trying to figure out the rest of our lives!!  I was able to schedule pediatric and dental appointments for the boys.  My older son is on the waitlist at 2 different preschools and I am waiting to tour facilities before plopping down tuition.  I’m having a bit of difficulty finding an adult dentist for myself.  Now that TriCare has switched from MetLife to United Concordia it is really difficult to find dentists that accept the insurance, especially since we won’t be stationed in an area with a base.  I know that I can go to a major chain (think Aspen etc) but I would really rather go to a private dentist.  So that is a bit of a pain in the rear.  I’ve put in notice with Joseph’s current school and with our on-post housing complex.

Overall I’m making great progress and feel like I’ve really got the logistics of our move under control.  We are now 3 weeks away from my husband’s change of command.  It’s going to go by in the blink of an eye… Can’t wait to see what else pops up!!

independence, milspouse

Is the New Year Bringing Big Changes for You?!

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“Cause, man…. Do we got some stuff coming down the pike….

I think that everyone has some sort of reaction to the end/beginning of a new year.  Personally, I think that it affects milspouses the most.

With how hectic and chaotic military life can get, a new calendar year can bring A LOT of change.  Even when changes are expected the change of year makes it all seem so REAL, ya know?  I’m feeling particularly overwhelmed this year.  Very recently my husband came home with flowers and sushi…. aka bomb dropping gifts.  I was under the impression that he would be changing out of command in the spring and that he would then begin an 18 month MBA program.  Not only was my husband getting to continue his education, as a family we would have solid, non deployable, family time.  But then…. the sushi… and now we are waiting until the end of January to find out if he got picked for a high-profile aide position.  Did I mention the job comes with a 9 month stint in Afghanistan?  So there’s that…

For us, this position has so many implications on our future.  We haven’t decided on the military as a 20 year commitment yet.  The MBA would kick that decision down the road a little.  Which works for us, we like this lifestyle but are still on the fence.  But this job is amazing and opens so many doors for my husband’s career that we would pretty much be making the commitment to 20+years.  It would be silly to take this job and not continue to compete at a higher level in order to maximize his time in the Army.  I’m honestly happy with either course of action.

The not knowing though!!!  Holy Cow!  We have had so much not knowing over the years, that the certainty that I had before was so refreshing.  Having it yanked away hasn’t been easy to deal with.

What crazy things is the military throwing at you in 2018?