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Every momma is nervous for their child’s first day of school. Will they make friends, will they get lost, will they like their teachers. The list goes on and on of all the things us mommas worry about. Add in the crazy caveats that military life brings and it can be down right terrifying. On my military child’s first day of school I worry so much, I feel like my heart is going to explode. Please excuse my word vomit as I just get out all the things running through my head tonight…
All the Usual Worries
My son is small for his age and went through a period of delayed speech development. He’s mistaken for a child several years younger than he actually is fairly frequently. While his speech flows freely now, I still worry about others understanding him and that hindering his social interactions.
Every year new teachers bring new anxieties. Am I the only one who wonders if new teaching methods won’t gel with my son’s learning style? I hope I’m not. I want my son to have the very best education and I understand that part of that’s about learning and teaching styles.
So basically, it’s all about stress.
My Military Child’s First Day of School
The biggest consideration is whether or not our son goes to an on post school or not. When we live on post, he tends to have an easier time adjusting. He can make friends with kids in the neighborhood and have some friendly faces on the first day. More importantly, the kids and teachers all understand where he’s coming from. There will be tons of other “new kids” at school. If his daddy is deployed I know there’s other children going through the same deployment.
At an off post school it can be a blessing or a curse. I do like the idea of him getting outside of the military bubble and seeing how other kids live and it’s always interesting to hear his point of view on other occupations and lifestyles. There’s a smaller number of new kids which means that he has to work harder to make a place for himself among children that have been close their entire school careers.
Most of All, I Wonder…
If we’re doing the best job we possibly can in raising our children. I know that my husband often talks about how selfish he feels when he sees me leave yet another job or his kid’s cry over leaving friends. Our children didn’t choose this lifestyle. My husband did and I chose him. We sacrifice stability again and again in order to support him. I know some military families where the mom and kids have stopped moving with the service member. Every family is different, but I know that I could never do that. I feel that we’re separated enough by the Army and there’s no substitute for my husband’s presence. Regardless of how infrequent it is.
So on the eve of my military child’s first day of school, I don’t just worry about his reading, writing, and arithmetic. I’m worried that every life decision that we make will adversely impact his education. I think that is something that every parent can identify with.